To Munch Or Not to Munch. That Was My Questions

As you might have read, on Monday night I attended my first ever Fetish Munch. Originally I had planned to post my munch report the very next day, but I decided to allow one day to collect my thoughts.
Before entering the venue I was mentally compiling a list of questions to ask myself once the event was over.

- What exactly will be occurring during the get together?
- What types of people are in attendance?
- Did I enjoy the event?
- Would I ever return and attend another munch?

My objective was to have the answers to these and other questions during the evening.
Upon entering the spacious loft like room I was quickly greeted by the events host. She welcomed me to the event and asked if I would like to sit down. The room was sparely furnished with a mish-mash of furniture. Single chairs, were lined up with sofas along side love seats. It looked like an indoor garage sale. No two pieces of furniture were the same color. The setting was a collection of disregarded furniture orphans.

I sat down in one of the sofa chairs and scanned the room. It was clear most in attendance had been there before. The familiar chatting of friends was heard in every corner of the room. The fact that I was a stranger there was not disheartening to me. After all, being my first munch I knew I was guaranteed not to know anyone there.

Soon after sitting, the evenings host addressed the group. We were told that within the first hour there would be an open panel discussion followed by a question and answer period. The last hour would be set aside for casual chat amongst the group members.

Though I did not actually take an accurate head count, by guess would be that there were anywhere from 20-25 people in the room. An equal mix of men and woman from the ages of 25 to 60. This munch was for Fem Dommes and submissive men. Let me tell you, it is never boring when you get a group of Fem Dommes together. The Dommes took over the conversation and contributed extremely riveting and insightful stories. I also spoke on many occasions during the event.

Everyone there was in plain dress. No fetish wear, no leather at all. It was a room of everyday people. Your accountant, your lawyer, your gardener. Just everyday citizens gathering together with one common goal. To learn from each others experiences in order to live a more fulfilling and happy life within a Female led relationship.

One Fem Domme in particular caught my eye. She spoke with confidence. She was articulate, well spoken, educated and was speaking from over 17 years experience living in the BDSM scene. I learned a great deal while hearing her speak.

An aspect of BDSM that I do not have prior experience in is the 24/7 D/s relationship. This is something I am very interested in. It is a rare opportunity to be able to get the chance to ask very personal questions to someone you just met and to receive such candid and honest answers.

As expected, my fellow Fem Dommes took over the conversation with great vigor. There were many times that questions were addressed to the submissive males, but all questions were followed by silence. I do wish the submissives were more verbal. I do want to learn from them and understand their needs.
No topic was taboo and nothing was off the table. We discussed sexual preferences, lifestyle choices and how couples initiate open candid conversations about sexual desires.

Candour about sexual preferences is something I have always envied and admired about gay and lesbian couples. For instance; I have found it to be true that most vanilla couples will engage is sex first before actually sitting down to discuss it. Sometimes married couples will never discuss it. The first time heterosexual vanilla couples have sex it is usually the same. Boring missionary position. It is a given that 'part A' will be inserted into 'slot B'.

Gay and lesbian couples have to discuss things ahead of time. Who will be the top and whom will take the role of the bottom? Will the lesbians use a dildo or a strap on? And if they do use toys, then they must decide who will receive and whom will be the giver. Sadly heterosexuals are still very much closeted about their sexuality, and almost ashamed of it.

I am not ashamed to be a sexual being and it was so refreshing to be able to really talk and exchange ideas.
I enjoyed the event immensely and I intend to return for the following meeting as well. This munch I attended holds meetings once a month.

There is a different munch scheduled for kinksters under 35 years old, that will be held next week. I am planning on attending that one as well. The members will be completely different. It will be interesting to see which munch and age group has greater audience participation. Will the older more experienced group that I attended this week be more verbal or will the younger group next week be more excited to share their stories? It will be interesting to see.

And so my adventure continues in this strange and exciting world of BDSM.

~ Madison