A RESUME FOR A CAT

Ms. Terra Trinity
Email: ms_karma_kitten@yahoo.com
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OBJECTIVE:

A position as a feline ambassador, where I can utilize my expertise in feline communication and community relations.

CAREER HISTORY:

• Feline Ambassador (March 2003 - Present)
• Daily implementation of hygiene protocol
• Independent utilization of automatic nourishment receptacle
• Management of all schedules and itinerary of fellow co-worker
• Security and surveillance of rodent intruders
• Supervision of lavatory use
• Camouflage and concealment

SKILLS & TRAINING:

• Spheroid Reconnaissance and Retrieval Certificate
• Co-habitation Training
• Doctorate in REM Nocturnal Sleep Management

PERSONAL INTERESTS:

• Manual defacement of broadloom

LANGUAGES:

• English, Feline

REFERENCES:

• Upon Request

  

(Hope that put a smile on your face! Goes to prove even a Dominatrix has a sense of humor)

~ Madison

The Ethics of Money Slavery

I have an internal dilemma that I am trying to work through. I am hoping that sharing my thoughts in print will give this situation some clarity. The issue revolves around money. More specifically my current lack of it. And it has got me thinking about the ethics of money slavery.

This emerging phenomenon within the BDSM community has many names: Money Slavery, Financial Slavery, Human ATM's, Money Piggies, Financial Humiliation, Financial Domination...and probably many more terms that I might be forgetting.

The concept is simple, the financial slaves are used for their money by a needy Princess/Mistress. Some will go so far as to incorporate consensual blackmail. But is this practice a legitimate form of BDSM or is it just abuse?

I am grappling with it right now. The idea of marketing my need for money and essentially begging for it is repugnant to me. Yet, my disgust is overshadowed by my unpaid bills and my empty wallet.

True BDSM to me involves more of a physiological component. Both D/s do not need to be in the same room together. I for one excel at maintaining online relationships with my subs. I ask myself ..."Can there be room for financial compensation; compensation for my time?"

The internet is littered with copious amounts of humiliation websites. Men from all over the world gladly will pay for the opportunity to be humiliated via email, web video or they simply enjoy reading the Mistress's humiliation posts.

My dream is to one day have my own website, and yes it would be a paid-membership based site. To me that is a legitimate business where I am being paid for my services. Financial slavery on the other hand feels like begging.

Here is my dilemma. I first need money in order to pay a web designer to create my website in order to make money. So that brings me to the "Sub Question of the Day" As a matter of fact, this day I have 3 questions for my subs.
My 3 questions for my subs today are...

1. Is money slavery a viable means of income for a Mistress, similar to a website capitalizing on member subscription humiliation?
2. Is there an emotional benefit for the sub to financially reward his online Mistress?
3. Have you had a Financial Mistress before?

Email me your response to the Question of the Day email address:   yesmistressmadison@yahoo.com
All replies will be read and appreciated.
Until we meet again my loyal servants

~ Mistress Madison
(Stay tuned, in my next blog post I will reveal to you what Responsible BDSM means to me)

My Weird 'little' Fetish

The wonderful thing about fetishes is that they can be developed at any time throughout our lives. It is exciting in adulthood to discover something new that we find thrilling and exciting. And so was the case with my weird ‘little’ fetish.


The fetish I am referring to is Small Dick Humiliation (SDH). Oh, how I love it! Sometimes I suspect I enjoy it more than the guy I am with.

It was only this year that this new fetish was introduced to me. I had heard about it before, but had never practiced it. My ex-boyfriend confessed to me one night his interests and asked me timidly if I would humiliate him and laugh at his tiny little baby dick. He was 4.5 inches when erect.

From the first scene we did, it was obvious to me that I was really good at it. Playfully mocking and teasing him became a huge thrill for me. Even now as I write this, just thinking about SDH is getting me wet.

I often ask my subs why they like it. I have asked myself the same question. There are two aspects of it that I enjoy. Firstly, the humiliation feeds my sadistic personality. Degrading a ‘man’, and I use that term loosely, is exciting. Rejecting a man’s size is such a taboo. Women are taught to lie about a small dick to spare the man’s feelings. Secondly, SDH is empowering to me as a Domme.

My list of sexual interests and fetishes are quite long. I have posted the extensive list under the 'my interests' page if you are ever so inclined to read it. Out of all of the items on that list there are a few that stand out as my favorites....small dick humiliation, cuckold, forced bi and pegging/fisting of my male subs.

Out of all my favourites, small dick humiliation is the most difficult one to explain to a potential boyfriend. If fact, for me, it is impossible to explain it unless the man already had that fetish before meeting me.

I can just imagine how that conversation would go. I'd be dating a man in a vanilla relationship for a couple of months and inevitably the union would progress and become physical. At some point most men will ask the woman they are with if she likes his size. Let’s say the man is a bit above average, around 6 inches. I cannot very well open up to him and say..."Actually, I secretly wish you were only 3 inches, because I would really enjoy mocking you, pointing and laughing at how small you are. Then I would like to sleep with another man in front of you and tell you how much bigger he is”.

I love small dick humiliation and I miss it very much. I think about it daily. Before now my last SDH was in late February, before my ex-boyfriend and I broke up. My hope while attending fetish munches is to network and to find a boyfriend of my age group that shares my fantasies.

That all changed two weeks ago when I had the opportunity to enjoy it again with a man that was ridiculously small. You cannot imagine my surprise and delight to discover, once I got out my ruler to measure him, that this guy was an entire 1 inch smaller than my ex. His baby dick, at 3.5 inches erect, broke my personal record and is the smallest that I have ever seen. I have affectionately nicknamed this guy Peanut.

I think I am actually going through SDH withdrawal ha-ha. It is something I need to do often, but sadly cannot because I am currently single.

It is wonderful how SDH is not only extremely humiliating for the male, but it is also emasculating. There is nothing in this world that I hate more than the male ego.

The male ego is selfish, irresponsible, disrespectful, needy and responsible for acts of stupidity, sexual aggression and violence.

It is my strong opinion that every man should be under strict orgasm control, to curb the evil influences of their male egos.

My search continues for the perfect SDH boyfriend. I have my magnifying glass out and I am ready. Line up boys, and prepare for inspection!

~ Madison

Facebook Relationship Stats

Tonight I have decided to spend the evening alone. Perhaps I will periodically check Facebook, Twitter and all the other social networking sites out there that make us feel like we are connected to other human beings; when in reality we are still sitting at home alone.


Originally I had planned on attending a social munch tonight. This event promised to be completely different from the last. The previous munch was an educational evening with discussions and member participation.
The munch tonight is more of a casual gathering. The venue is a local club. The munch group, I am told, blends in with the rest of the crowd. The objective for the evening is to socialize and get to know other people in the scene.

I will probably attend the next one which is to be held in June. But tonight I cannot bring myself to leave the house. Tonight I just feel like being alone. My date tonight will be a glass of white wine and a Blu-Ray disc.
Though it is true that I am currently single and am half-heartedly looking for a relationship, lately the idea of dating is exhausting to me. So many first dates, and very few that I find intellectually interesting and very little chemistry.

I have been on Facebook for a while, yet despite what was happening in my personal life, I have never changed my relationship status. It has always remained listed as ‘single’. I find it very comical to see some Facebook members that change their relationship status as often as the weather. My opinion is to wait until there is some type of certainty before announcing the relationship.

I have taken the time to poll my close friends, and there is a huge difference between male and female opinion on Facebook relationship status changes.

My male friends tell me they are hesitant to announce a relationship because it is something they don’t normally announce anyway. Most men I have seen leave the ‘relationship’ field blank.
Stereotypical women on the other hand are very quick to want to announce a new partnership, and change their status with great vigour.
It is not the relationship status per se that bothers me. It is the humiliating and humbling act of admitting defeat and changing the status back to ‘single’ once the relationship is over. I have no illusions when starting a new relationship. I am not pessimistic, I am just realistic. I don’t see every new boyfriend as a potential life-long partner. I see the relationship as what it is; two people getting to know each other. After all, if two single people meet and decide to date then the truth is that 100% of their past relationships have failed. That is the truth.

Relationships were much easier back in high school before social networking sites. If you started dating someone in high school every one of your friends would know about it from day one. And if by chance you happened to eventually break-up, well everyone would know about that too.
It would be very strange to apply the Facebook rules of etiquette to the high school scenario. On Facebook a couple is prone to wait, let’s say for a month or so, before announcing their union. This would never work in a real life social setting.

Imagine a boy and a girl dating in high school. The boy would be asking for some serious physical injury if he suggested the following....”Let’s date for one or two months but not tell anyone. By all means you can be one of my friends during school, but I will continue to sleep with you behind closed doors. And if anyone at school asks, I will tell them I am still single”.

I will play devil’s advocate here and ask: why is Facebook any different. If you are in a relationship, why then would you hide it from your friends and still tell the world you are single while sleeping with the girl/boy you are with?

Perhaps Facebook should add an additional choice: ‘currently dating’ or ‘seeing someone’. Would that make things easier?

Funny enough, I have actually heard of relationships ending because of constant fights over the controversial Facebook relationship status. I find that incredibly amusing!

Will I ever change my relationship status? I guess we will wait and see.

I welcome your comments.

~ Madison

Mother's Day

Aw Mother’s Day. The holiday conjures up images of spring flowers, sunshine and family gatherings. This year is no different. Today I will be venturing out for our annual Mother’s Day dinner with the family.
I have always wondered how others in the BDSM scene relate to their families. Especially those that live the lifestyle 24/7. How ‘outed’ are most kinksters to their families?

My relationship with my mother is an unusual one. We are extremely close. In fact I would even venture to say that my mother is my best friend; as cheesy as that may be. I am very open and forthright with her regarding my life. She is wonderfully open-minded and understanding.

My mother is a psychologist! It was very interesting to say the least to grow up with a psychologist for a mother. By profession, they have a way of getting patients to reveal their souls against their wills.

Growing up, I was the typical antisocial misanthropic teenager. I was an angry and bitter Goth girl. I detested being at home and spent a lot of time out with my friends. Any time that I did spend at home was spent locked up in my bedroom.

I recall one childhood memory with my mother. I was 16-years-old. I had spent the better part of that weekend locked in my room listening to music; only venturing out for food and the occasional washroom break. There was a knock on my door. It was my mother wanting to talk. I rudely ordered her to leave me alone. But she was not budging. I decided to appease her and let her in, but in no way was I in the mood to talk.

Initially the conversation was very one-sided. She was very sweet and loving in her concern for me. Somehow, as she always does, at some point during our talk she worked her psychologist magic on me. The next minute I knew I was telling her all.

She did this to me every time! No matter how resolved I was to not say a word, in the end she always got what she wanted. It drove me crazy!

Now in adulthood there really is nothing I can say to her that would shock her. Throughout her training I am sure she has heard it all.

I would even guess that within the realm of BDSM, fetishes and unusual sexual perversions my mother probably has studied and knows more about it than most of us.

It is unfortunate that she discarded all of her psychology text books from university. I continue to have this insatiable thirst for knowledge.

It is my opinion that we must always strive to keep on learning and improving ourselves, regardless of our interests. Therefore I continue my journey to uncover the origins of sexual fetishes.

~ Madison

Question of the Day for Male Subs:What is your #1 Fetish

Tell me slave boys. What is your #1 fetish.

Question of the Day Email Address: yesmistressmadison@yahoo.com

Email me the following:

1. What is your #1 fetish? Write it in the subject line
2. Why does this fetish excite you?
3. What is your earliest childhood memory regarding the start of this fetish?

Mistress Madison Moore has set up this email account for incoming mail only.

All replies will be collect and read, but not relied to. Information gathered through this email address and through ObayOnline will remain strictly confidential.

All names and identities of Sub Males that reply will not be published. Only data will be used.

This email address is reserved for Male Subs only to reply to ObayOnline's Question of the Day.

To Munch Or Not to Munch. That Was My Questions

As you might have read, on Monday night I attended my first ever Fetish Munch. Originally I had planned to post my munch report the very next day, but I decided to allow one day to collect my thoughts.
Before entering the venue I was mentally compiling a list of questions to ask myself once the event was over.

- What exactly will be occurring during the get together?
- What types of people are in attendance?
- Did I enjoy the event?
- Would I ever return and attend another munch?

My objective was to have the answers to these and other questions during the evening.
Upon entering the spacious loft like room I was quickly greeted by the events host. She welcomed me to the event and asked if I would like to sit down. The room was sparely furnished with a mish-mash of furniture. Single chairs, were lined up with sofas along side love seats. It looked like an indoor garage sale. No two pieces of furniture were the same color. The setting was a collection of disregarded furniture orphans.

I sat down in one of the sofa chairs and scanned the room. It was clear most in attendance had been there before. The familiar chatting of friends was heard in every corner of the room. The fact that I was a stranger there was not disheartening to me. After all, being my first munch I knew I was guaranteed not to know anyone there.

Soon after sitting, the evenings host addressed the group. We were told that within the first hour there would be an open panel discussion followed by a question and answer period. The last hour would be set aside for casual chat amongst the group members.

Though I did not actually take an accurate head count, by guess would be that there were anywhere from 20-25 people in the room. An equal mix of men and woman from the ages of 25 to 60. This munch was for Fem Dommes and submissive men. Let me tell you, it is never boring when you get a group of Fem Dommes together. The Dommes took over the conversation and contributed extremely riveting and insightful stories. I also spoke on many occasions during the event.

Everyone there was in plain dress. No fetish wear, no leather at all. It was a room of everyday people. Your accountant, your lawyer, your gardener. Just everyday citizens gathering together with one common goal. To learn from each others experiences in order to live a more fulfilling and happy life within a Female led relationship.

One Fem Domme in particular caught my eye. She spoke with confidence. She was articulate, well spoken, educated and was speaking from over 17 years experience living in the BDSM scene. I learned a great deal while hearing her speak.

An aspect of BDSM that I do not have prior experience in is the 24/7 D/s relationship. This is something I am very interested in. It is a rare opportunity to be able to get the chance to ask very personal questions to someone you just met and to receive such candid and honest answers.

As expected, my fellow Fem Dommes took over the conversation with great vigor. There were many times that questions were addressed to the submissive males, but all questions were followed by silence. I do wish the submissives were more verbal. I do want to learn from them and understand their needs.
No topic was taboo and nothing was off the table. We discussed sexual preferences, lifestyle choices and how couples initiate open candid conversations about sexual desires.

Candour about sexual preferences is something I have always envied and admired about gay and lesbian couples. For instance; I have found it to be true that most vanilla couples will engage is sex first before actually sitting down to discuss it. Sometimes married couples will never discuss it. The first time heterosexual vanilla couples have sex it is usually the same. Boring missionary position. It is a given that 'part A' will be inserted into 'slot B'.

Gay and lesbian couples have to discuss things ahead of time. Who will be the top and whom will take the role of the bottom? Will the lesbians use a dildo or a strap on? And if they do use toys, then they must decide who will receive and whom will be the giver. Sadly heterosexuals are still very much closeted about their sexuality, and almost ashamed of it.

I am not ashamed to be a sexual being and it was so refreshing to be able to really talk and exchange ideas.
I enjoyed the event immensely and I intend to return for the following meeting as well. This munch I attended holds meetings once a month.

There is a different munch scheduled for kinksters under 35 years old, that will be held next week. I am planning on attending that one as well. The members will be completely different. It will be interesting to see which munch and age group has greater audience participation. Will the older more experienced group that I attended this week be more verbal or will the younger group next week be more excited to share their stories? It will be interesting to see.

And so my adventure continues in this strange and exciting world of BDSM.

~ Madison

Tonight I will be going to my 1st Munch

Tonight I will be heading out to attend my 1st munch. For those of you unfamiliar with the word, a 'munch' is a term used in Fetish communities to mean a get together/social gathering.

Munches are completely different from a fetish party or fetish event. There is no fetish play at a munch and those attending are asked to wear regular street clothes. Munches are often held in public places; restaurants, bars and cafes.

I have heard both good and bad things about munches. Some have reported a great sense of happiness to be able to join and chat with pleasant like-minded individuals. I have also heard that some of these gatherings are filled with very strange and creepy people.

It is very common in the BDSM community for kinksters to having casual play partners. Therefore munches are sometimes a way for fetish players to meet future play partners. It is for this very reason that I have avoided going to munches in the past.

My avoidance of causal play partners has not changed. My decision to attend this munch is a way for me to better understand the psychology and needs of male submissives. By understanding and interacting with more lifestyle sub males I will be able to better understand the root of their fetishes. This understanding will in turn assist me to become a better Pro Domme.

The most fascinating aspect of kink and BDSM for me is the psychology of fetishes, specifically when it relates to childhood and the nurture vs. nature argument.

These munches will allow me to discuss and get first hand anecdotal accounts from men on the origin of their fetishes.

Whether the experience tonight is a positive or negative one, the evening promises to at least be interesting. I highly doubt there would be a moment of boredom in a room full of kinksters.

I will post full details of tonight's event sometime tomorrow.

Until then,
~ Madison

The Perfect Fem Domme/male sub relationship: my definition

When a man does decide to enter into a Female Dominated relationship with me he is setting the ground work for a life of happy servitude that will be physically, emotionally, spiritually and psychologically rewarding and fulfilling.
Sadly most men only come to realize the benefits of female led relationships later in life (in their 40’s and 50’s) after having unsuccessful vanilla marriages. No wonder most marriages fail when the vanilla couples never sit down and discuss D/s. The two people end up fighting for power and control in the relationship and it will in time fail.

Lucky for me I have managed to find and date a good number of the few handsome submissives out there that are in their mid-20’s and early 30’s.

With the right Domme to support and guide the male sub, a life of servitude will bring a great sense of purpose and meaning to his life. Within that union you will have trust, security, peace of mind and spirit.

BDSM when done properly, for me, needs to be done in a relationship. There needs to be trust, understanding, mutual respect and caring. I care for all of the subs I have been with. I know I am unusual in my thinking but intimacy is what I need to be able to Domme a man.

Casual play partners (whether the play involves sex or not) is still like casual sex for me. I am not interested in casual fun. A deep and meaningful bond is what I always aspire to achieve.

So what makes a good male sub? My definition of a great sub is a man that in his heart he has a desire, yearning, longing and drive to submit and to serve a woman in a loving and nurturing environment. A man that lives and breathes the role and has the psyche of a submissive. And with his submissive personality and disposition would come an abundance of gratitude and appreciation.

Appreciation is very important to me. If my sub is truly grateful for my time and verbalizes his gratitude it demonstrates to me that I am not wasting my time.

Training a new sub is very laborious and time consuming. I take great care when training a new sub. His appreciation is vital in the D/s union.

Though I have had many subs throughout my life, I have not as yet taken on and collared a slave. This is my wish. I am always looking to find the right mix of obedience, past training, servitude abilities and sexual chemistry.

Therefore my search continues xoxo

~ Madison